昨天回家途中，看到很多人在停車場附近圍觀。抬頭一望，乍見一個人影站在停車場頂層的欄杆外（約十層樓高），下面有警察，救護車和消防車在戒備。那一刻，有點怕，所以便走進隔鄰的超級市場。逛了10分鐘左右，看見人群開始四散，而欄杆外的那人已不知所蹤。然後聽到有女警在問：「有無人見到頭先既情況呀？」有一個男人舉手。
我便離去了。
走著走著，聽到2個女學生的對話，類似是「頭先聽到『啪』一聲呀。」「好彩只係聽到，無望到咋！」
噢，究竟發生了什麼事呢？
是跌落救生墊時的『啪』一聲？
還是……？
幾乎每天打開報紙，也會看到有關自殺的消息。自殺的原因不外乎失戀、失業、失學、錢債、健康、壓力等問題，致令當事人覺得不能再承受這些心理負擔，更覺前路一片黑暗，所以才會選擇自行了結生命吧？
但正所謂「窮途不等於末路」，不盡力走到最後一步，焉知不是柳暗花明又一村呢？
想不通一個想自殺的人的心理狀況。是因為已經到了山窮水盡的地步？是因為想逃避現實？是因為一時衝動？如果稍微想一想自殺後家人和朋友的感受，是否有懸崖勒馬的機會呢？但亦有人是本著因為「不想連累家人朋友」而選擇自殺，結果往往只會為他們帶來更深刻的痛苦！
自問一向生存意欲也是頗高的，不是因為我有什麼偉大的志願，只是單純地覺得「我仲有好多地方未去過」、「仲有好多野未做過」、「仲有好多野未食過」、「仲有好多野未試過」。哈哈，全也是些傻妹的想法，但足夠令我懂得珍惜生命。
星期六, 3月 03, 2007
星期三, 2月 28, 2007
(234) 阿tHin狂想曲6：中毒
特別新聞：
近日發現一群年齡由10歲至80歲的市民，每晚坐在電腦前埋頭苦幹，時而皺眉，時而傻笑，不停打不停打，遲遲不願休息。據報，這些人均患上「BLOG主後群症」。如發現以下三樣特徵，請盡快到附近的醫院求診，或告訴任何值得信任的人，切勿諱疾忌醫。
(1) 狂寫BLOG
(2) 狂睇人D BLOG
(3) 狂COMMENT人D BLOG
你，今日寫左BLOG未呀？
近日發現一群年齡由10歲至80歲的市民，每晚坐在電腦前埋頭苦幹，時而皺眉，時而傻笑，不停打不停打，遲遲不願休息。據報，這些人均患上「BLOG主後群症」。如發現以下三樣特徵，請盡快到附近的醫院求診，或告訴任何值得信任的人，切勿諱疾忌醫。
(1) 狂寫BLOG
(2) 狂睇人D BLOG
(3) 狂COMMENT人D BLOG
你，今日寫左BLOG未呀？
(233) 信仰
你信有神的存在嗎？
近半年，開始跟隨朋友參加崇拜。冒犯地說，以前很怕基督教，覺得基督徒都是「過份熱情」的。去年暑假開始，低沈了一段日子，朋友便提議跟她返教會。結果有三個大發現。
第一個大發現是，原來我真的很喜歡唱歌，無論是流行曲，還是聖詩。可能由於教會有LIVE BAND的關係，覺得歌曲特別悅耳，歌詞特別感人，已經不止一次在崇拜途中淚眼盈盈的了。
第二個大發現是，除了唱聖詩，我還很喜歡聽牧師講道，講一些人生大道理，講如何做人處事，待人接物。我就是喜歡聽，然後思考，但會否做得到，又是另一回事了！:P
第三個大發現是，並非每個基督徒也會「過份熱情」，我身邊就有不少平易近人的教友。
中學時，知道要望彌撒，便會很期待。除了因為不用上課外，我很喜歡彌撒的氣氛和教堂的琴聲。
無論是天主教的彌撒，抑或是基督教的崇拜，也給我一種很舒服的感覺，心情頓覺豁然開朗。之前參加崇拜是想治療心病；最近幾次去崇拜，是想令平靜的心情更加平靜。情況就好像大病初癒後要進補一樣。
曾經問自己，我信有神的存在嗎？答案是不肯定的。但無疑近半年是「信多左」的。
又問自己，我喜歡天主教還是基督教？答案也是不肯定。不過現階段的我，覺得無論是天主教又好，基督教也好，只要開心舒服便可以了，何必強迫自己去選擇呢？反正也是同一個神嘛！
或者人，總是喜歡有所依靠。尤其是在心靈脆弱時，希望得到些支持。除了朋友在旁鼓勵外，心靈的充實亦可加速痊癒。希望最近心情欠佳的朋友們也可找到適合自己的心靈雞湯。令心靈富足，不一定要和宗教扯上關係，任何令你感到安心和平靜的事/物/人，也可以成為你獨有的心靈補品。
近半年，開始跟隨朋友參加崇拜。冒犯地說，以前很怕基督教，覺得基督徒都是「過份熱情」的。去年暑假開始，低沈了一段日子，朋友便提議跟她返教會。結果有三個大發現。
第一個大發現是，原來我真的很喜歡唱歌，無論是流行曲，還是聖詩。可能由於教會有LIVE BAND的關係，覺得歌曲特別悅耳，歌詞特別感人，已經不止一次在崇拜途中淚眼盈盈的了。
第二個大發現是，除了唱聖詩，我還很喜歡聽牧師講道，講一些人生大道理，講如何做人處事，待人接物。我就是喜歡聽，然後思考，但會否做得到，又是另一回事了！:P
第三個大發現是，並非每個基督徒也會「過份熱情」，我身邊就有不少平易近人的教友。
中學時，知道要望彌撒，便會很期待。除了因為不用上課外，我很喜歡彌撒的氣氛和教堂的琴聲。
無論是天主教的彌撒，抑或是基督教的崇拜，也給我一種很舒服的感覺，心情頓覺豁然開朗。之前參加崇拜是想治療心病；最近幾次去崇拜，是想令平靜的心情更加平靜。情況就好像大病初癒後要進補一樣。
曾經問自己，我信有神的存在嗎？答案是不肯定的。但無疑近半年是「信多左」的。
又問自己，我喜歡天主教還是基督教？答案也是不肯定。不過現階段的我，覺得無論是天主教又好，基督教也好，只要開心舒服便可以了，何必強迫自己去選擇呢？反正也是同一個神嘛！
或者人，總是喜歡有所依靠。尤其是在心靈脆弱時，希望得到些支持。除了朋友在旁鼓勵外，心靈的充實亦可加速痊癒。希望最近心情欠佳的朋友們也可找到適合自己的心靈雞湯。令心靈富足，不一定要和宗教扯上關係，任何令你感到安心和平靜的事/物/人，也可以成為你獨有的心靈補品。
(232) 轉貼：Discover the 90/10 Principle
今天收到同事寄來的電郵，雖然有點長，但覺得蠻有意思，想和大家分享！
Author: Stephen Covey
Discover the 90/10 Principle.
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? ..........By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? .... Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life!!!
Author: Stephen Covey
Discover the 90/10 Principle.
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? ..........By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? .... Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life!!!
星期二, 2月 27, 2007
(230) 2007的生日快樂(1)
收到朋友的電郵，說今年生日活動的主題是：
親親大自然，
甘又老一年！
多殘忍的主題啊！！（雖然是押韻的……）
離生日還有一段日子，但異常重視生日的我，每年也會預先「放風」提朋友和我慶祝生日（好似有D變態添 >_<），今年也不例外。唯一不同的是，今年，我希望可以和好友們簡簡單單地過，不需要如往年般十多二十人一起慶祝了。無論多人還是少人，只要開開心心的笑過，便等於過了一個快樂的生辰。
親親大自然，
甘又老一年！
多殘忍的主題啊！！（雖然是押韻的……）
離生日還有一段日子，但異常重視生日的我，每年也會預先「放風」提朋友和我慶祝生日（好似有D變態添 >_<），今年也不例外。唯一不同的是，今年，我希望可以和好友們簡簡單單地過，不需要如往年般十多二十人一起慶祝了。無論多人還是少人，只要開開心心的笑過，便等於過了一個快樂的生辰。
(227) 2004的生日快樂
星期一, 2月 26, 2007
(226) 雪
第一次看到真雪是在日本，應該是2001年1月7日，當時正在老師的朋友家中homestay。大概是黃昏時分，抬頭一望，發現幾片雪花正緩緩的下墮，輕輕的拍向玻璃，愈積愈多，愈積愈厚，也愈來愈凍。Homestay的爸媽怕我沒有足夠的衣物，便立刻駕車到附近的超級市場，買了一對雪白的手套給我，一直保存至今。
很愛下雪天，曾經試過懶浪漫的一個人走在街上，不撐傘，靜靜的享受雪花飄下來的感覺。但結果卻一點也不浪漫，只覺頭、面、褸、褲也濕透……又凍又濕，現在想起也禁不住為自己的「浪漫主義」而感到可笑。
當年留學，算是多雪的一年。3月尾到應該開始回暖的大阪探藍戰士時，居然仍在下雪。但可惜銀銀和我已把所有厚衣物從鹿兒島寄回東京，幸好「媽媽」給我倆每人一個暖包，這種雪中送炭，我永遠也會銘記於心。
香港沒有下雪，特地拜託在加拿大的朋友拍些雪景照給我。很美很美，猶如聖誕咭上的景物一樣！多謝啊！(^_^)
很愛下雪天，曾經試過懶浪漫的一個人走在街上，不撐傘，靜靜的享受雪花飄下來的感覺。但結果卻一點也不浪漫，只覺頭、面、褸、褲也濕透……又凍又濕，現在想起也禁不住為自己的「浪漫主義」而感到可笑。
當年留學，算是多雪的一年。3月尾到應該開始回暖的大阪探藍戰士時，居然仍在下雪。但可惜銀銀和我已把所有厚衣物從鹿兒島寄回東京，幸好「媽媽」給我倆每人一個暖包，這種雪中送炭，我永遠也會銘記於心。
香港沒有下雪，特地拜託在加拿大的朋友拍些雪景照給我。很美很美，猶如聖誕咭上的景物一樣！多謝啊！(^_^)
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